Do memories of negative conversations, confrontations and decisions tend to stick with you longer than you would like? Are these same memories often the reasons why you hesitate taking risks in your daily life?
Maybe you decide that discussing a raise, a promotion or updating your job description with your boss is not worth reliving the hot flash of embarrassment you felt after an earlier awkward confrontation, even if it happened at your previous place of work.
Maybe you decide against enrolling in evening or online classes for mature students, thus missing out on a possible raise or better job opportunities, because you “were never a good learner” or “were never good with computers”.
Maybe you constantly put off talking with your bank to seek solutions to your problems with debt and unpaid bills because you dread the judging, condescending tone of the bank teller when they see how poorly you’ve managed your life.
Maybe your frustrations at home increase day by day as you swallow your emotions instead of expressing how you would like things to be different, for fear that your spouse will react harshly and see you as selfish and demanding, since that was how your ex always reacted.
The ways in which your past negative experiences prevent you from healing and prospering are countless, from your daily habits (“I can never get myself to regulate my sleep”) to your family life (“I can never earn my spouse’s respect”) to your career (“I can never stop my coworkers piling their responsibilities on top of mine”) and so on.
The truth is that the majority of the force that is holding you back comes from the weight that you give to your own immediate reactions, which only collects over time to strengthen the chains. We are imaginative creatures and, when confronted with a problem or a perceived failure, our mind races in every direction to find reasons so that it can prevent this from repeating. If you have grown into a generally negative mindset, or have unconsciously trained yourself to always prepare for the worst, then there is no wonder that the shortest distance for your mind to guess the reason for your problems is find the most obviously negative ones.
That is why and how you decide that you will fail “just like always”, that your ideas will be rejected “just like always”, that you won’t be accepted into the community at your workplace/school “just like always”.
But so much can change simply by taking a step back from and then rediscovering yourself.
Daimon is based on the psychological and philosophical theory of narrative identity, which explains that our stories are not set in stone, but are always open to our creative reinterpretation. Your story may have surface similarities to the stories told by victims, but you always have the freedom to redraft the next act in your narrative.
The aim of Daimon is to guide you to reveal and acknowledge how you can rethink and reassess your memories and experiences, to reinterpret what has gone before. It can be a very demanding process. You will face how different the world may have been all this time. Different from what you had to believe to protect you from risk and pain. But countless possibilities to prosper lie ahead.
The coming patron exclusive posts will cover the theories behind Daimon in more detail, as well as the background and history of the system’s philosophy. Furthermore, we will focus on various specific areas of our lives where the Daimon process can benefit us.
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